7 Mistakes Women Make Around Men They Like

(The following is a re-print of a article on Ezinearticles.com.)

You have the most wonderful guy that you could wish for, yet it's possible that you also lose him fast because of some silly mistakes that women make around men they like. Listed are seven of the biggest mistakes that women should be cautious about around men they like.

Do not be desperate
One of the seven mistakes women make is of being desperate for their men that the men get completely put off by this behavior. If the women can behave like this at this juncture of their relationship, how much worse will their behavior be at a later stage?

Being frivolous and petty
All your beauty and sexiness goes to the wind when men see how frivolous and petty you are. Men get taken in fast by beauty and sexiness or the physical aspect of a woman, but soon tire of this side when they see the real you which is frivolous and petty.

Do not be hasty
Do not be hasty about revealing to your guy everything about your self. That is one of the seven biggest mistakes a woman can make. Men like a certain amount of mysteriousness about a woman which keeps them intrigued rather than know everything about her.
Being easily available
One of the other seven mistakes that a woman tends to make is being easily available whenever the guy wants to get in touch. Men like the cat and mouse game or a little of the hard to get game which women resort to. They tire with easy prey and lose interest.

Being possessive
One of the other mistake that women make is being possessive and demanding of a man's time and attention. Lay off a bit. You too would not like it if your guy became possessive of you. He too needs his freedom and space as much as you do.

Expectations and commitments
This is another mistake that women land them selves into. They build up too many expectations and try to extract too many commitments of their guy. Guys don't want to be under so many expectations and commitments even before their relationship has taken root.

Being too demanding
Sometimes women begin to get too demanding of a man's time or activities. This is one of the seven mistakes that most women make around men and then lose them. No man likes to be answerable about his time and the people he goes out with. He expects you to respect his privacy.

How Do You Know if You Should Give a Guy Space?

(The following is a re-print of an article on Ezinearticles.com.)

Nature has made men and women in such a way that men need more space than women. It is also seen in the animal world where males generally live solitary lives or in pairs while the females of the specie generally live in prides. It comes as no surprise that if a man is denied his space he feels claustrophobic and eventually breaks free. You will know when to give him space when he shows some or all of the following symptoms.

The restlessness
You will notice that your man for no plausible reason begins to grow restless and begins to snap at you. If you are a family he will grow agitated when children begin to prance around the house or when they begin to make noise. Such restless behavior indicates that he needs some alone time.

Does not take interest in things that once interested him
Earlier it used to be you or your kids that he reveled in; however, of late he does not seem as interested in either you or the kids. This sign of boredom is a classic symptom of him needing some man time with his friends and buddies. You and the children remind him of his responsibilities and he wants to feel carefree for a change.

He encourages you to take off
He will subtly suggest that you visit your parents or go off on a holiday with your friends and colleagues. Although he will show that he wants you to have fun his real intention is to get rid of you temporarily for some time. When he starts suggesting such things make plans for a vacation sans him.

Old buddies begin making an appearance
All of a sudden he will one day announce that his old friend is visiting town and he needs to catch up with him for old time's sake. This is one of the lamest of excuses men give when they need to get away from their girls/women/spouses.

Overdose of each other
If you two have not been apart for a substantial period of time then it is obvious that you too begin to tire of seeing his face day in and day out. Well, this is also happening with him. So, take a break and leave him alone for some time.

Arguments and disagreements
When the arguments and disagreements seem to increase by the day it is time you gave him some space. Either stop putting pressure on him or suggest that he start spending his weekends at the bar or the pub with his friends. After a few weeks you will notice a sea change in him.

Sex is no longer as exciting
Sometimes when a man gets the feeling of being trapped it is the sex that suffers. He will complain of decreased libido or will not initiate sex with you. It is not that he does not find you attractive, it only means he needs some space to recharge himself.

(Answers to) Fall '10 Survey #5

If you had to choose a mate based on only one criteria, what would it be?	kindness
What's something spontaneous that a romantic interest could do to surprise you?	take me to hear live music
What's the meanest thing a member of the opposite sex has ever said to you?	(after professing a hidden crush, naming what i was wearing the first time he saw me, and convincing me to visit his campus for spring break) "I was just playing."
What places do you go to, to look for a mate?	i dont go anywhere looking, but i stay open to possibilities.
Underwear or "commando"?	underwear
What's the lamest way you've ever been dumped (or have dumped someone)?	dissapearing acts, both sides. lol
Favorite "bedroom boom" song?	"lick" by joi
Knowing that over half of marriages in the U.S. end in divorce, would you still want to get married? If so, why?	yes. im a hopeless friggin romantic. fml
Ask for directions or keep looking on your own?	keep looking. i like the adventure.
What do you believe motivates a man in terms of interaction with the opposite sex? What about a woman? *	sex, comfort / security, comfort

Virtue

(The following is a re-print of a post from the blog My Life As A Serial Dater.)

It is one of the superstitions of the human mind to have imagined that virginity could be a virtue. -Voltaire

Virtue is a word used to describe moral excellence or a trait or quality that is morally excellent.  Purity is a virtue.  Virginity means you are pure and thus you are virtuous. Without your virginity, you are not pure, you are not virtuous. Throughout time and within different cultures, the emphasis on a woman's virtue has cycled in and out of importance.  But, rarely has a man's virtue ever been called into question through his possession or loss of his virginity.  Men are seen to be virtuous for other reasons, not having to do with their chastity.  When challenging a man's virtue, his courage and honor would be called into question, not a small layer of skin in the depths of his genitals.

There are many different definitions and ideas on when a woman's virginity ceases to exist; when she is penetrated vaginally, when she is penetrated anally, with fingers, with a penis, with an instrument.  Is a woman robbed of all virtue if she is raped?  Does giving head, but not having intercourse mean one is still a virgin?  Can virginity be restored through prayer?  Can a virgin be 'born-again?'  And why does it matter?

Virginity is seen as a virtue that is to be taken by a man.  It's something to be preserved until one meets the right man that will penetrate and break the flesh threshold.  The first time for a woman is never described as something that brings pleasure.  It's awkward and uncomfortable.  It's painful, but a woman should be happy that it is something she can share, something that she has saved for a well-deserving man.

I know very few women that are still with or even still talk to the man they lost their virginity to.  The passing of the sacrificial hymen isn't an agreement.  It doesn't come with any requirements or promises of loyalty.  It really means nothing.

After I 'lost my virginity,' I didn't know how to feel.  The phrasing itself left me with a feeling that I should feel a loss.  Should I be mourning my childhood, my purity?  It was fun.  I felt sexy.  I liked the boy with which I shared my first sexual experience.  We were good friends and it was fun.  It was wholesome.  It was his first time too.  I didn't feel like anything was missing.  I felt enriched, like I knew something others didn't.  I had sex.  I was sexual.  I was proud.

But, one night, it caught up with me.  I remembered the external influence.  I remembered the things I had learned as a kid and adolescent.  I heard the voices preaching the importance of purity and virtue.  I remembered that I had 'lost' something.  I lost my virginity.  It didn't matter that it was a very positive, loving experience.  I felt bad that I didn't feel bad.  I wasn't a kid anymore.  I had to be more mature now.  I wasn't a virgin anymore.  And in that moment, lost in the expectations of others, I forgot that I had made a good decision.  I forgot that I was in love and that I was still a kid.  I forgot that I had a pure heart and that I was a good person and I shed tears of mourning for something intangible, something that had never brought me joy.  I mourned a small mucous membrane that had probably been broken by a tampon or by my fingers long before my first boyfriend ever entered me.

I understand it better now.  When I think about my first time, I smile and I feel happy.  It was a beginning to a healthy wonderful part of my life. But, at the time, I had no one to turn to to share my shame.  My sister and mother had never made me feel bad for having sex.  No one was ashamed. No one put pressures on me.  I was 17 and I had taken a natural step in life.  My friends and family thought it was nothing to bat an eyelash at, but somewhere deep inside, I knew that society was frowning on my decision.  It may have been a natural progression, but feeling loss and shame were also natural, right?  It was, after all, inherent in the phrase.  It was lost.  I wasn't enriched.  I was missing something.

Now, I know this was bullshit and I frequently stop myself when I am about to say "I lost my virginity." It's not lost.  I know exactly when I decided to have sex for the first time.  I am not missing anything.  I am not without.  Nothing was taken from me.  I still talk to the man that gave me sex for the first time.  He gave me my first orgasm and he gave me love and respect.  Unfortunately, it took a little longer for me to give myself the love and respect that came so easily from him. It took more maturity for me to realize that virtue is a social construct that can't be defined by an act or a small layer of mucous.  My virtue and purity can't be taken and will never be lost.

(Answers to) Fall '10 Survey #4

If had to choose a mate based on only one criteria, what would it be? *	sensabilities
What's something spontaneous that a romantic interest could do to surprise you? *	pick up the check
What's the meanest thing a member of the opposite sex has ever said to you? *	honestly cant remember
What places do you go to, to look for a mate? *	everywhere im always looking
Underwear or "commando"? *	underwear
What's the lamest way you've ever been dumped (or have dumped someone)? *	txt
Favorite "bedroom boom" song? *	pretty willie four walls
Knowing that over half of marriages in the U.S. end in divorce, would you still want to get married? If so, why? *	yes, we don't plan our lives on failure
Ask for directions or keep looking on your own? *	ask ask ask
What do you believe motivates a man in terms of interaction with the opposite sex? What about a woman? *	femine ways

How to Handle a Guy After You Have Slept with Him

(The following is a re-print of an article on Ezinearticles.com.)

So you've slept with him. Now, you're wondering what you should say to him. You don't know how to act. You're afraid that you might say or do the wrong thing and the entire relationship goes up in flames. Well, there's no reason to fret. Here are some tips about how to handle a guy after you have slept with him.

1. Determine Your Feelings

The very first thing every woman should do is evaluate her feelings after sex. Was it the right move? Perhaps it would have been a better decision down the road? Whatever your feelings about it are, it is important to determine your reaction to the act so you would know how to handle a guy after you have slept with him.

2. Do, Not Say

If you decide that it was a step in the right direction, the next thing to do is to let him know that you are interested in pursuing things at this level of intimacy. However, instead of using words, use actions instead. Give him romantic gestures and refrain from acting needy and clingy because this will surely turn him off. Be confident and secure enough in yourself to be able to show him what you want without scaring him away.

3. Act Normally

Proceed with your normal activities. There's no reason for the universe to stop after you have slept with him. This will show him that you have your own life, and that you are mature enough to let him live his. It will also drive him crazy if he thinks that sleeping together wasn't such a big deal for you. Of course, you can subtly remind him of the fun you had from time to time to keep him interested.

4. Show Off Other Assets

It's also important to let him know that you are more than just a bed partner. Show him your sense of humor, your capability of intelligent conversation, and your other skills and talents out of the bedroom.

5. Connect Through Something Else

Try doing something else with him. There are other bonding activities you two can pursue. This is a subtle way wherein you can be more present in his life without alienating him. You could join him in an exercise routine, sports or any other activity that can be enjoyed together. This will also deepen his attraction to you because he knows he can enjoy other activities with you.

6. Don't Rush 

It's generally a good idea to wait a little bit before sleeping with him again. Apart from heightening his desire and curiosity, some space will also give you both time to reflect on your feeling and attitudes towards the relationship. Of course, during this period, it is important to let him know that yes, you are still interested and will be available soon.

7. Never Manipulate Through Sex

Lastly, sex should never be used as a weapon. Withholding or giving sex should never be used to wring out favors from him. In order for him to respect you as a whole person, you must show him that there's more to you than just sex.

Free Online Dating Service: How to Go About Choosing One

To effectively and easily choose the best free online dating service, below are some tips for you.

Internet Dating Sites

There are just too many free internet dating websites. How could you possibly choose the best among them? It could logically be like choosing a match in a matchbox full of matches. However, you could easily find and identify the best online dating service if you would closely look at several important factors.
Here are the most important factors that you should check out when you intend to find the best online dating service for yourself. Now you could select the best service that matches your interests and personality.

Free Membership And Regular Access

Nothing beats free services. That is why an online dating service would always be better and much popular among people compared to paid services. It is always best for online daters if they would not pay for anything including membership and monthly access fees. There are many free internet dating sites today so there would always be more options for men and women.

It is also better if your online dating service does not collect any hidden cost. When the site says it is free, it should be actually accessible for free. Do not use websites that claim to be free but tends to collect minimal fees during the membership period. Be careful not to take a free trial paid site as a free site. Also beware when 'upgrading' your membership as it could lead to collectibles.

Reputation And Security

Of course, you should always aim to stick with companies and sites with good reputation. It is always advisable to ask for actual feedbacks from people who have actually used the free online dating website. You may also check out numerous reviews, especially those that expose setbacks and negative opinions about any dating site. You may also consult the Better Business Bureau if there is such an agency in your area.

As for security issues, make sure you choose a dating site with features that are intended for protection of your overall personal security and privacy. Sometimes, the control is not on the end of the websites but on your side, especially when you do not have PC protection against adware, malware, and spyware. Make sure the website as well as your computer is protected by reliable virus protection programs.

Growing Community

It is futile to join a free internet dating service that has a small community. You are there to meet new people and find good candidates for dates. It would be better if there would be more options. It means it is better if the site has numerous members who like you are also looking forward to meet new people and strangers for possible dates.

Do not limit your gaze to people within your vicinity or locality. Sometimes, your dating website has to enable you to meet people from other cities, states, or countries so you could have wider variety.