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Saturday, October 23, 2010

He's REALLY Not That Into You...

(The following is a re-print of an article on

Are you afraid he's really not that into you? Is the guy you desire distant and less than loving? Do you wonder if you should take your affections elsewhere? Sometimes individuals are just not compatible. It could be time to stop worrying, and move forward with a more positive relationship.

Signs He's Really Not That Into You

If you think he's really not that into you, then you're probably right. It might be hard to read subtle signals that show people really are interested, but when they start giving off signs that they would rather be somewhere else, it's not that hard to tell.
  • Easily Distracted - If you notice every time you're talking to a guy he shifts around, looks at everything but you, and tries to escape, then chances are good he's really not that into you. Although guys in general can be distracted, a guy who cares what you've got to say is at least going to make an attempt to pay attention.
  • He Doesn't Make an Effort -If you're the one doing all the work to try to build a relationship, and he just sits back and acts like it's no big deal, then maybe it's time to find someone who will appreciate you for all you've got to offer.
  • He Doesn't Include You -If you think you've got the beginnings of a relationship, but you don't feel included by the guy, then chances are good he's really not that into you. A guy who wants to be around you will go to great lengths to introduce you to his friends and family, share details of his day with you, and bring you into different situations that will help the two of you build a working relationship. If you feel left out, pick up and move.
  • Missing Connections -If you're the one making all the phone calls, sending all the texts, and making the arrangements for every little thing, then it could be that they guy you like is just plain lazy...or, maybe he's really not that into you. If it seems like you get his voicemail every time you call, and he conveniently forgets to call you back, then take a hint. If he's the lazy kind, you could probably do better, anyway.
  • He's Unavailable - If a guy comes up with a million excuses why he can't spend time with you, and it seems to happen all the time, then you're probably right. He's not interested, or he would be making an effort to make up for lost time.
Getting Over It

If you've tried every trick in the book and the guy you want to be with clearly does not want to be with you, forget about it. Cut your losses, and move on before you invest more precious time and effort into a relationship that's clearly not worth the energy it takes to dial the phone.

The truth is, there are plenty of great men out there, who are looking for a relationship with someone just like you. So, leave mister what's his name behind, and look for someone who's worth your while.

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