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Sunday, October 10, 2010

"Should I Approach Him When He Seems Really Hard to Get?"

(The following is a re-post of an article on

At times we hesitate to make a move on a guy we are really in for because we feel that he is out of our league. But there are a lot of reasons why you shouldn't give this thought much consideration. Here are a few reasons why you should approach a guy who you feel is out of your league and how to do so.

Leagues and boundaries are all a state of mind

Leagues and boundaries are all created by us as a figment of our insecure selves. You need to tell yourself that all people are created equal and are as good and as bad as you are. Life is not a popularity contest and you are not a contestant. Once you get your approach right all else becomes easy to handle.
There is something special about you
All people have something special about themselves. You need to identify what your strong points are and work towards highlighting them. Once you see that you are excelling somewhere you will feel a lot better about yourself and the league business will begin to appear trivial.

Dig deep and get your shot of confidence

Look within yourself and identify where your actual insecurities lie. Once you are able to deal with your real insecurities then you will be able to approach the guy you like with much more ease and comfort.

Everything is worth giving a chance

Life is all about taking chances. You need to keep telling yourself that the higher the risk the greater will be your gain and what do you really have to lose? All you need to do is to give yourself a chance with this guy to see if things will work or not. Don't let the fear of rejection stand in the way of a potential relationship.

Every man has his share of insecurities as well

To feel better and a little more assured know that no matter how cool a guy might be, he too has his share of insecurities. Approaching him with the right spirit might just make him feel more comfortable with you as you will be more grounded and real.

Approach with the right attitude

Have the right attitude when you approach this guy. Being desperate and pushy will not help. But being mature and intelligent and an emotional equal will help you develop his interest in you.

Be fun and entertaining

Lastly, make your man see that time spent with you is going to be a blast and he will fall for you hook, line and sinker.

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