A friend today asked me to address why so many female professionals remain single. A few brief points:
You’re a “man” now: You have to stay late at work, your schedule is tricky, you can’t be out all night, you’re supporting yourself and can’t make frivolous purchases, you have a professional reputation to uphold, and so forth-- pretty much the things men have always had to date around; boppers and hoodrats, they don’t have to reconcile any of these impediments and are thus at a man’s beck and call
“I deserve more”: This can be debated with men and between women all day, but it’s just a fact that the more a woman has earned in money and position the more she feels entitled to in terms of a mate; women are simple and complex at the same time, needing an honest man who is consistently concerned yet acknowledging that “a woman who’s on her Oprah grind can’t date just anybody!”; men-- especially minorities-- feeling now more than ever the pressure to be at a certain level, understand a woman’s expectations only as an indictment of their character, abilities, and overall worth; lacking the ability and/or courage to articulate this fear, they easily dismiss you in favor of insipid or weak-minded females
Power: It’s rare among animals that females dominate a hierarchy (lions, hyenas, orcas [oh, my!]), but among humans this is changing fast; women are in greater control of their financial circumstances and thus their sexual, relationship, and childrearing options; men are threatened by this but know that destroying a strong, professional woman outright would be considered wholly evil; instead they seek to make pariahs of you, shunning you and sending strong verbal and non-verbal messages that they won’t be with a woman who can challenge them, even if that’s the furthest thing from your mind
Meditate on and discuss these and we’ll examine other factors in future entries.