makes the sex hot-- nothing else.
Drama and craziness are only tolerable when you're a teenage girl; most of you are not that. And don't ever wear your Jekyll/Hyde persona as a badge of honor. There are no awards for women who make men's-- and other people's-- hair fall out.
So ask your doctor if chilling the fuck out is right for you.
On the other side, you should not get involved with men who are this way. I know that women are easily bored and need constant stimulation-- which makes me wonder why marriage is the endgame-- but emotional rollercoasters, men especially, can leave you sick and exhausted with each turn.
Not saying you have to ride or be the monorail, but getting older means getting real. You need some things to be steady in your life. The person next to you should be one of these.