Do you believe there's such a thing as a soulmate?

Saturday, June 5, 2010

It's Not Always a Game

Peep game.
He doesn't call like he should.  He doesn't mention where all of this is going, like he should.  Sometimes he's more than available to play; other times he's conveniently indisposed.  Now that he's had you for a few go-rounds, he seems to only get excited when you and your equally hot girlfriend come around.  He missed your birthday party to attend his brother's bar mitzvah-- yeah, likely story.

You say you don't have time for games and that's good... 'cause we don't either.  "Game" is an ambiguous concept that gained traction in the 1990s and has since become a crutch for men and women alike.  I'll have women tell me, "I want a guy who's not a game player," like I'm supposed to even know what that is.

As I've said before, most men just do.  There is no "game" being played... except in a woman's head.

If he decides to skip a party you've put together with your friends it isn't part of some diabolical plot to twist your head inside out like a chef hollowing a grapefruit.  If he tells you, "I could see being in a relationship with you," then he means just that: he could see it.

Women often divine what they want from what men say and do, like an oracle casting chicken bones along the ground.  Stop reading what you want into a man and then perceiving game when he does the other thing.

You can start by not taking seriously anything a man says while he's in bed with you.  Please, start there.

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